Ever since I found out that "How are you doing today?" was not a sincere question and was explicitly told: "Fine would have been enough!", I really can't take it seriously and ask back. I hate it when people pretend to care as a part of their job. It only makes me feel worse, so I feel that asking the question back would only make things more unpleasant for both parties.
That's the only thing on the list that I'm guilty of, though honestly I don't feel particularly guilty of that one, since I have good intentions. :/
Otherwise, is it okay to leave a paper crane folded from the wrapping on the table? :D I know that technically it still counts as trash, but I thought something like that would cheer them up, so it's become a habit of mine.
Well I mean it when I ask, but usually people don’t, so I forgive you, haha.
The crane is really sweet! I’m sure people love that.
A Public Service Announcement about Public Servers
I’m just going to talk a little bit about ways to be courteous and kind to restaurant employees when you visit them, because I think a lot of this stuff people just don’t know, or never thought about, but it makes a big difference. If you don’t mind reblogging this, just to get the word out a little, that would be nice. :)
I’m writing this as a fast food employee because tonight at work a woman managed to go through my drive-thru, pay, get her food and leave without looking at me once, and it really hurt my feelings. It was worse than when customers are rude or unhappy, because it was like to her I didn’t even exist.
So that is where I’m starting.
1) Restaurant employees are people too. They are not soulless machines that produce food for you. Please acknowledge their worth as human beings by, at the very least LOOKING AT THEM, but also be courteous and if they ask how you are, ask them back! So many people treat speaking to restaurant employees as though it doesn’t count as a “real” social interaction. And, whether they themselves are conscious of it or not, it makes them feel like they don’t matter. They will feel like they are what you’re treating them like. Treat them like intelligent, friendly people and that’s how they will be for you.
2) Don’t blame them for things they aren’t responsible for, just because they are the most accessible representative of the company. If you think the prices are too high here, go somewhere else. The employees have no control over that whatsoever, and most likely would personally agree with you, although they can’t really admit it. Personally, when guests do this to me, it just makes me feel guilty because I feel bad that I know it’s true, and it’s just awkward because HOW DO YOU REPLY TO THAT? You don’t want to start up an argument with the guest, but you’re also not gonna go YEAH THIS PLACE SUCKS, RIGHT? Just keep it to yourself. Send the company an email. Complain to someone who is actually responsible for that sort of thing. This also goes for when food turns out differently from how you usually get it / how they make it at a different location of the same restaurant. They are not deliberately sabotaging your food. They are making it they way they know how, that they’ve been told is right. If it’s simply not acceptable, ask politely for them to change it. This ties in nicely to my next point.
3) If something goes wrong, BE CIVILIZED, PATIENT, AND KIND. Personally, I already feel awful if I realize I’ve screwed up a guest’s order. When guests react well to this sort of thing it makes the whole process so much smoother and nicer for everyone, and overall it DOESN’T make me want to run to the back room and cry. DO NOT yell at me and cuss at me and get super defensive with me. I may have mentioned before, I do not purposely sabotage anyone’s food. Let’s discuss this like rational people. I am very sorry. It will be fixed. Move on with your life. It’s not the end of the world that I forgot to throw a breadstick in your bag, or that I hit the wrong button when taking your order. Don’t throw a tantrum like a three-year-old, don’t get all snippy and passive-aggressive like you’re in the cast of Mean Girls. There’s just no need. It was an accident stemming from the fact that I am human and NOT ACTUALLY a robot made to produce food for you. Let’s work together nicely to make this experience still turn out pleasant. I also get this a lot from people who want to do things that are against the rules, like use multiple coupons for the same order. I am not being mean by saying no. I’m not allowed to do that. If I do that for you, I get in trouble. You won’t go broke because you have to pay that extra 2 dollars you would have gotten off. Stay calm. That also ties in with #2 because I did not make the rules.
4) Think about things from their perspective. I know a lot of times you get stuck in your own little world and it’s easy to forget that everyone else around you is living a life too. That’s not sarcasm, I really get it. I get in those modes sometimes where I’m in a self-centered rut and I just don’t think about how what I do affects other people. That doesn’t need to be the norm though. Try to actively do this when you’re visiting a restaurant. For instance: When you get up to go, look back at your table and ask if you would want to have to clean that up. If you’re in a sit-down restaurant, or somewhere that you’re supposed to leave your dishes on the table, there’s only so much you can do, but at least try to stack stuff, so it’s easy and quick to clean up. If you’re in a fast food restaurant, did you leave any trash on the table? (also don’t leave the pennies you got for your change on the table. The message that sends is incredibly insulting. It tells me you think you’re so well off you have no need of such petty change, but since I work in fast food I must need every penny I can lay my poor lower-class mitts on. Just fuck off with that. If you SIMPLY CANNOT BE BOTHERED to carry around pennies, at least throw them in the trash or something. Don’t leave them like you think I could use them) Just look at the table through the eyes of an employee and ask yourself what message it’s sending. Does it say “I know you have a lot of shit to do so I’m trying to make this easier and less disgusting for you” or does it say “BY GOD YOU’LL EARN EVERY CENT YOU MAKE IF I HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY ABOUT IT”? Also protip: if you drop silverware on the floor, just pick it up. Would you leave silverware laying on the floor at home? I know the floor is probably pretty nasty, but you at least have the chance to pick up a fork with your own germs on it that’s only been on the floor for a couple seconds, instead of making me pick up a fork with some stranger’s saliva all over it that’s been on the floor for who knows how long.
5) Ordering: A Guide. This is not MANDITORY but it is super helpful from a restaurant employee’s perspective, and it will help you too. If possible, know what you want before starting to order. Don’t start to order and then stand/sit there forever finishing. Stand out of the line until you know what you want, or ask for more time to decide, if you’re at a sit-down restaurant. The restaurant employee has better things to do than stand there and watch you go UMMMMMM and so do the people behind you in line, or the other guests waiting to be taken care of in a sit-down restaurant. When ordering, ESPECIALLY IN DRIVE-THRU, speak clearly, at a moderate pace, and pause just slightly in between ordering things just in case they need to ask you a question, like how well-done you want your burger, or which side you want with your combo meal. PLEASE don’t mumble or whisper in the drive-thru like you’re talking to me face-to-face, beacuse it IS hard to hear with those, but also DO NOT shout at me, even if I ask you to repeat yourself. The volume on the headset is at a level where speaking at a reasonable volume is audible above the other bustle going on in the kitchen, so if you yell at me, it is AMPLIFIED RIGHT INTO MY EAR. If I ask you to repeat yourself, please do just that. Repeat. The same way. Perhaps annunciate more or something, or if you feel like you might be speaking softly (esp. if you’re a woman) maybe project slightly more, but do not shout at me. It hurts my eardrums. :( Don’t rush through your order like zombies are after you or I’ll be frantically trying to keep up with you and I am all sorts of likely to mix something up, mishear something, or forget something. But don’t wait for me to say something back to you after each item of food you add to the list. I am listening to you. You don’t need me to say “Okay…” after each time you say “and another cheeseburger…” Lastly, and this is an important one, okay? PAY ATTENTION WHEN THEY REPEAT THE ORDER BACK TO YOU. The reason they are doing this is to make sure they got your order right. It’s not because they think it would be fun to say all the things you just said. Do not pay little to no attention and then say “yeah I think that probably sounds mostly right.” LISTEN. Because when I give you your food and you say THAT’S NOT WHAT I ORDERED, I am going to apologize, fix it, and then as soon as I turn around the smile is going to drop off my face and I’m going to stalk back to my fellow employees and say THEN WHY DIDN’T YOU TELL ME THAT WAS WRONG WHEN I READ THAT BACK TO YOU, BITCH?
If you actually read all this and paid attention, then GOOD ON YOU. Have a cookie. I hope this helps you in your eating out adventures. It’ll certainly make you more liked behind the scenes. :)
You know what annoys me is when people assume that your being annoyed by something or disliking something means you want everyone to stop doing it. No, I just don’t like it! It happens ALL THE…
Well if something annoys you then obviously you’d rather no one did it, even if you’re not going around saying STOP IT GUYS. But sorry to annoy you, Inventrix… :\ I wasn’t arguing that Kat should stop being annoyed by it, I was just curious why and was expressing that I feel differently.
I’ll accept them, but then I get lazy and don’t do them for months.
You’re safer if you offer a trade, because then I’ll have motivation.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE when other people draw my characters. The quality of the art really doesn’t matter. It just makes me smile to see it. I say that just in case there’s someone who wants art from me but thinks they’re not good enough to make something for me in return. YOU ARE. Anything with actual effort put into it will make me so happy.
Speaking of which THERE ARE NO PICTURES BY ME OF MY MAIN TWO CHARACTERS WHAT IS THIS. All I have of them are comic pages, plain pencil drawings, and doodles. I’ll have to color one of the two of them soon. That’s so funny because I’ve drawn them the most out of all my characters.
Anyway, just thought I’d mention in case someone sees my art and MUST HAVE SOME. :P